When we are out of love and exhausted from holding ourselves together, we can't give anything to anyone else. When we are surrounded by people who are barely able to keep themselves together, they can't help us. We need triage. We need our own interventions. We need someone to build us back up so we can pay it forward. Frustration at their lack of caring doesn't change the fact they have nothing left to give. All we can do is love them at their worst and give everything we have to give.